Verse Of The Day

Saturday, March 9, 2013


It saddens me to use "A Funeral and an Anniverary" for the title of this post. You see, on February 7, 2013, my sister went home to be with our Lord. That morning, my father called me about 6AM to tell me my sister had passed away. Then he gave me the good news, her new daughter, Elizabeth, is alive and at Cook Children's Hospital in Ft Worth.

I had a hard time gathering my thoughts as I walked into our bedroom to wake Dianne up and let her know that my sister had passed away. We drove my parents to Ft Worth to be with my brother-in-law and my two nieces. We met my brother-in-law at the hospital and went to the third floor to see baby Elizabeth. She was 7 lbs 2 oz and 19 1/2" long, had more wires connected to her than Apple Computer's IT room, and beautiful. (She is due to be released in the next few days and proclaimed healthy. YEA!)

Dianne and I drove my parents back to their home on February 10th. (My wife and I married on February 9, 2008.) Yes, we spent our anniversary with my family at a hospital. Not the most romantic of choices. We decided that we could celebrate our anniversary later that month because our family needed us right then. It is not about me, but what can I do for others. Mainly advancing the Kingdom and being the husband and father God called me to be.

Our pastor called early February 7th. He prayed for Elizabeth and our family and assured us the Lifelong Love Affair Simulcast by Jimmy & Karen Evans that Dianne & I were to facilitate at our church on February 8th & 9th would go on and he would facilitate the event for us if we did not make it back from Ft Worth. While Dianne and I were grieving about my sister's passing we knew that our mission on earth is not yet compete. Jesus told us to "occupy 'til I come". The word occupy means to do God's work until Christ returns. All I could think about was there are marriages still hurting and we must continue to help.

God really answered our prayers over the past several weeks. We saw Elizabeth getting healed, relationships grow, and we celebrated another anniversary.

The visitation and funeral for my sister was held in our home town. Over 550 people signed the book at her visitation. The funeral was huge in attendance. My sister's life had touched many people. She left a big hole where she once was. How big will your impact be when you are gone? What are you doing each day to ensure that your legacy will last with your children and the next generation? Make it huge!

What does this have to do with marriage? Or your marriage? Life is too short to be bickering, complaining, fighting or just mad at each other. Do whatever you have to do to have the marriage God designed for each of us. Your spouse and kids will thank you for it.

God Bless you and your marriage. Thank you for your prayers for Elizabeth and our family.

Wednesday, January 9, 2013


If you are the one person in the world who has never been offended, this post is not for you. However, if you are like the other 7.7 Billion people in the world - let's see how we can work on not being offended.
It seems everywhere we turn; someone is getting offended over something. It does not matter whether there was an intended or unintentional offense. I do believe some people us the term, "I'm offended by that" in order to further their own agendas. Most seem to be politically motivated, but what about being offended in your marriage?
Psalm 119:165 says, “Great peace have they who love Your law; nothing shall offend them or make them stumble.” (Amplified Bible) I believe this passage says a lot about whether we are offended or not. If we are not offended, then we love God’s word and we have great peace. Not just peace but great peace. Who doesn’t want great peace in their marriage and life?

Most of the time we are offended it was not on purpose. Our spouse says or does something and we take it wrong. Before going down the bumpy road of offense, ask what they meant by their words or actions. Make sure you are not seeking to be offended. Be sure to talk and walk it out with your spouse - your marriage and kids depend on you. Your married friends are depending on you also. Iron sharpens iron.

How many times have you been offended by your spouse? How many times have you offended them? If you have been married very long it may be too many to count. The important thing to remember is to forgive 70 X 7. When Jesus said this, he did not mean to stop forgiving after the 490th time. We are to always extend forgiveness just as God has forgiven us.

We are to forgive our spouse even if they committed adultry or have been caught up in pornography? It is very hard to not dwell on the offense, whatever it was. Satan will bring the offense up to you when you lease expect it. He hates marriage and will do anything to steal, kill and destroy your marriage, family and life. Remember that we have a renewed mind in Christ. Think on the good things and do not dwell on the past hurts.

Purpose yourself to always live at peace with those around you and remember that 99% of the time when you get offended it was nothing. It was only a misunderstanding. Seek to be understood by communicating more and better with your spouse, your kids and others.

We are praying for you and your marriage. God Bless.

Friday, December 7, 2012


Do you remember Gomer? It’s not the most popular name found on the birth registry at most hospitals. No, not the one from the TV show, Gomer Pyle, USMC. The Gomer I am writing about was a woman. She was the daughter of Diblaim. Yes the names are a bit different, but stay with me on this because it gets even more strange. This post is about just one aspect of Gomer’s story.

What would you do if God told you to marry someone who you knew would not remain faithful? Gomer was a prostitute and God told Hosea to marry her. See, I told you it gets strange. Why on earth would our loving God tell the prophet Hosea, a man of God, to marry a prostitute? Hosea knew she had not been faithful; after all she was a prostitute. Hosea also knew that she probably would not remain faithful after they married. He was right; Gomer left after giving birth and fell back into a life of prostitution. When Hosea found her, she was being sold for less than the slaves. Her life had hit rock bottom. Hosea bought her back and they remained married afterwards.
How many people remain faithful before or after the wedding night? Unfortunately that number continues to decline. Statistics say that about ½ of married couples will have an affair. Affairs are not just for ordinary, common people. President Clinton and Monica Lewinsky, Gen. David Petraeus and Paula Broadwell, are just a few examples of highly influential married people that had affairs. The world tells us to do whatever we want, with whomever we want, whenever you want and there are no consequences for your actions. What a bunch of lies. Don’t fall for the lies of the world.
Stay connected to God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit with prayer and Bible reading. Stay connected with your spouse. Not just in a sexual way even though it is the glue in marriage, but by playing together, talking & listening (hearing) to each other, reading the Bible together, praying together, etc. There are endless ways to connect with your spouse. Did you notice I did not mention kids? They will grow up and leave one day (at least they are supposed to). After the kids are grown and gone you and your spouse will be spending much more time with each other and you do not need to be strangers to each other. Ever.
Do whatever you must to remain pure to God and your spouse. No matter what our past looks like our future is up to us to write. So, write a masterpiece of a life and marriage. God tells us to remain faithful to Him and our spouse. God lays before us a choice of life or death. Choose life.
Hosea & Gomer = God’s love for unfaithful Israel and us.

Wednesday, November 28, 2012


It's time to get a revolution started within your marriage. If you don't start it, who will. Let God take your marriage to the next level. Raise the bar on how you treat each other, speak about each other, out serve each other, and out love each other. Inside your home as well as outside.

1. Seek God's help. When we try to do something on our own it usually does not work at all or the results are less than desired. But when we rely on God working in us we are unstoppable. Phillipians 4:13 I can do everything through him who gives me strength. Remember that a three cord strand is very hard to break - God First, your spouse second, and yourself third.

2. Seek your spouse's help. Yes, ask for their help. For us husbands this may be more embarrassing than asking for directions at the convenience store. Ask them to help keep you accountable to God and them.

3. Ask your Christian marriage mentors to pray for your marriage to emulate Christ's love for us - the church. If you do not have a marriage mentor, seek out a mature Christian married couple and discuss it with them.

We have to be the light of the world and we must start at home with our marriages. Well, light it up!

Friday, November 23, 2012


I saw a quote this morning from George Orwell, "The further a society drifts from the truth, the more it will hate those that speak it." I completely agree with Orwell on this. It really got my mind thinking about who the real HATERS are and asking about why they hate. I believe they are people that simply cannot be happy for another's success so they try to bring them down by insults and lies. Merriam-Webster defines hate as: to feel extreme enmity toward, to have a stung aversion to, usually deriving from fear, anger or sense of injury.

Why do liberals say that Christians are haters just because we do not approve of a lifestyle outside of God's word (Homosexuality) or because we do not approve of some "free" choices (abortion)? We, as Christians, are the ones promoting God's love. But I digress.

Have you ever felt like you hated your spouse? Maybe that time when they said something that cut you to the bone or after they acted a certain way? We must remember that hatred is a feeling and our feeling can lie to us. We should always love the sinner but hate the sin. While our spouse will at times do things that we do not like, we must remember that we are commanded to love them no matter what. Husbands are given this commandment three  times in Ephesians 5:25, 28 & 33. Wives are commanded to respect their husband, Ephesians 5:22 & 33. Vs 22 says submit not respect but submission is showing respect. 

God commands us to love people. We do not get to choose who we will love and who we will not love or hate. But is it ok to hate something? Yes. We are to hate sin just as much as God hates sin. Proverbs 6:16 tells us, "There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him; haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemesfeet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lie and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers."

If you're asking how and why we should continue to love our spouse after they did or said that horrible thing, the answer is in Matthew 5:37-40 where Jesus gave us the Greatest Commandment: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.” Our spouse is our neighbor. 

When they do or say something we do not like, it is imperative to continue loving them and separate the action or word from the person. Our marriages depend on our ability to do this. If we are unable to do this our marriages will fail. The other relationships we have with people will fail also because we would be continuing to judge them and not their actions.

So, what are we to do now? Forgive our spouse for anything they have done or said that caused us harm. Forgive yourself also. (I am not saying to stay married if there is abuse) I will conquer that in another post. If abuse is in your marriage please read 1Corinthians 7, seek counseling and pray.

My version of the George Orwell quote: "The further a society drifts from God, the more it will hate God and the truth". The more our marriage drifts from God, the harder it will be to stay happily married. So, get back to God and make Him your Lord and Savior, give him your marriage, kids, work, finances, all that you have. It is all from Him anyway. And love God, your spouse and your neighbor.

Keep on loving!

Thursday, November 15, 2012


The greatest compliment you can give anyone, especially your spouse, is to listen when they’re speaking. But do more than just listen, hear what they are saying. Watch their body language and how they are saying it, not just what they are saying.

The greatest insult you can give anyone is when you don’t listen to them. Do you keep your eyes on the TV, computer screen, video game, texting or just look past them? Is it wait for the next timeout or commercial break? Or is it, just let me call my girlfriend back first?

How often do you give your spouse (or kids) your undivided attention? Do you put down whatever you were doing and look them in the eyes with your full attention? When we do, our actions tell them that we actually care about them and what they are saying.

The next time your spouse (or kids) are speaking to you, stop everything and give them your full attention. If it is hard at first, keep working at it and pray about it. They are the most important people in your life and they are worth the effort.

Wednesday, October 31, 2012

Oct 31st - Celebrate Reformation Day!

Did you know that today, October 31, is one of the most significant dates in church history? No, I’m not talking about Halloween—I’m talking about Reformation Day! You probably won’t see neighborhood kids going door-to-door dressed like Martin Luther or Ulrich Zwingli tonight, but these men and their fellow reformers made a huge and lasting impact on the way that evangelical Christians understand and approach Scripture.

The Protestant Reformation was shaped by many people over many years, but came into focus when a monk named Martin Luther nailed his famous 95 theses to the door of the Wittenberg church in 1517. Luther was a Catholic priest who was upset at the widespread corruption he observed within the ecclesiarchy, most notably the sale of “indulgences” that promised postmortem forgiveness of sins for deceased loved ones.
Outside Luther’s Germany, similar “protest” movements were helmed by people like John Calvin, Ulrich Zwingli, and John Knox. Beyond protesting corruption in the church, the emerging “protestant” movement challenged many of the theological teachings of the Roman Catholic church. The reformers believed that Scripture alone—not human traditions or the rulings of a church—held complete authority for Christians (see “sola scriptura”), and that salvation was a free gift of God that could not be earned by good deeds. The widespread publication and distribution of Bibles—indeed, the fact that all of us can afford and freely read the Bible ourselves—is one of the most enduring legacies of the Reformation.
The century following the Protestant Reformation was a chaotic and violent time, but the reform movements survived to form the basis of today’s Protestant denominations. Protestants owe a debt of gratitude to the many reformers who risked (and in some cases, lost) their lives rebuilding the church. And non-Protestant Christians can appreciate the reformers for confronting corruption in the church, even if they don’t agree with all of Protestant theology. So today, pause for a few minutes amidst the Halloween festivities to remember this pivotal moment in church history.
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